Relationship Problems & Difficult Relationships
Relationships are tricky and full of challenges. There are many types of relationships we develop in our lives each having unique meaning, experiences, and joy and/or sorrow. These relationships are a core purpose for existence here on Earth by having the opportunity to interact with each other in physical form; a very different experience from interacting solely in a non-physical state or spiritual state of being. Many of us have forgotten (especially when in a difficult relationship) the choice we’ve made to experience the unique and diverse relationships we have here on Earth. And yet, the difficult relationships are some of the most sacred agreements we’ve made to each other prior to coming into form.
In conjunction with our challenging relationships are those that are harmonious, easy, joyful, and feel natural; these relationships are equally important as they give us continuous support, and nurturing while we face the challenges of life. These are the relationships that feel easy, smooth, and simple as though you both just know what’s up without having to go into much detail. These are also the relationships to seek out when undergoing inner transformation and/or experiencing the more difficult relationships in order to have the support needed.
The question to ask yourself is, to what depth do you learn about yourself or the other person in a harmonious relationship? After discussing difficult relationships, ask yourself this question again and see if your answer changes.
Anything needing to be released must first come to the surface in order to be recognized. A challenging relationship will trigger the aspects about ourselves and others that need releasing or healing and bring them to the surface ready to be looked at. These are usually deep seeded aspects that would have never risen otherwise and demands special love, acceptance, and attention. These are the parts of us we rarely know are there; although, under the surface they are subconsciously driving the non-working patterns and painful experiences we encounter in life. Beliefs about ourselves, others, the world, and Reality create the life we experience. Many of these beliefs are running the reels behind the scenes as they are usually embedded at an early age or within the collective consciousness we are born into. How are we to know what these are if they aren’t usually obvious? One way to do this is by recognizing our reactions and actions in difficult relationships.
Who do we usually show are weaknesses to throughout life? Our co-workers, our acquaintances, etc., or do we show these to the ones we’re the closest with? Why is this? It just might be that we want to be healed of these aspects, false or non-working beliefs, and have subconsciously chosen that person to shake our inner world.
Enlightenment or Spiritual Alignment does not exist when separateness, conditional love, limited tolerance, and non-acceptance exists. We cannot achieve transformation without an upheaval and a deliberate look at where these lie within ourselves or others in order to begin healing them. This is a most ominous opportunity to show strength and share love for yourself and others because here is where you or they get to heal this aspect of self.
With a simple shift in perspective, you can transform a difficult relationship into a most sacred one by recognizing the opportunity you have to either heal aspects of your own personality or of the personality of the person you’re with. When the events pop up, take a moment to step back and reflect for a moment and ask “what is trying to surface here?” If it’s you or your companion in the relationship (friend, mate, lover, parent, etc.) experiencing a counter belief surfacing; the shift from reaction to reflection will transform it by simply remembering, “this is an opportunity for healing this counter belief by simply accepting, reflecting, and releasing this moment,” either for yourself concerning whatever came up or for what came to the surface for the person you’re with as opposed to reacting and taking it personally.
Quite simply put, try to recognize that you or they have detached from their own source of love and light within themselves or yourself during that moment. Recognizing the innocence and sacred opportunity to heal that moment comes when you accept, forgive, and allow for the source of love and light to replenish the space and energy that was just released.
We are all One, separateness is an illusion and we are all here learning how to balance and harmonize our form with spirit. This comes with cooperation and by honoring our difficult relationships as much as our easy ones and then we’ll get there!
Much Love too all.




