The joy of life is about giving, but has been misinterpreted. It’s about doing the most loving thing for your Being first and foremost. Because, the Being made of love, will naturally share and give to others when we are aware and awake to our Being and the joys we deserve to experience.

It is very exhausting to constantly give to others if we haven’t given to ourselves first, but if we fulfill our own needs, desires, etc. (not the egos/self/personality’s), then it’s not exhausting at all to give to others, it’s actually energizing. If we give to others without giving to ourselves first, we have actually become takers, because it comes with an energy of “I’m tired”, or “I don’t have time, but I’ll do it anyway”, or “If I help these people, I’ll look good”, or “If I don’t give, give, I’m a bad person”, or “If I say no, then I’m being selfish.” This mind chatter obviously goes on forever, since we all have our own versions.

Be compassionate towards your “self”, don’t judge it, watch it with your Being, so that you can learn how to balance and unite with it, anything else only perpetuates the mind chatter cycle.

My explanation for,

“but if we fulfill our own needs, desires, etc. (not the egos/self/personality’s)”

Our own needs, desires, etc. is referring to our Being’s needs, desires, etc. rather than the personality’s, just to be clear if it was not clear. I don’t believe the personality is undesirable, it’s just been distorted, manipulated, conditioned, and most of all entrenched with deep seeded fear.

The fear that “self” experiences is a fight against the fact that we are all a part of the One essence of light/love. Self believes that if we accept existence as One, it will die, and anything fearing death will exude a powerful force of resistance.
Good Luck, and Much Love to You!

My previous post “What is Love?” had a couple of fun exercises to do that I’ve done myself, one of which is a love letter to yourself.  Below is my love letter to me that I wrote a few years back.  Enjoy.

“Somehow, somewhere, I always knew I would find you.

The child in emotional solitude longed for your return, always trusting that you would.

The struggle that once seemed so painful then, is only now, a sweet reflection of the perfect path to reunite.

I am on our path, but yet still a student of your light and now without fear, instead dawning trust.

This reunion has brought such peace and reverent freedom.

Thank you, I say, to your perseverance to open my soul to our Spirit!

I Love Thyself!”

In the last few years, I’ve had the opportunity to learn from several magnificent people whether through books, conversations, group programs, relationships, trials, and experiences.  These few years have also been the most difficult yet majestically beautiful and awakening for me.  Interestingly enough, there has been one main vein of awareness throughout it all, and that is Love.

I’m taking the liberty to define Love here and however simple the definition; it’s the expression of Love that has many faces.  Expression is where we get confused, myself included, and when we get clear with our expression, peace always follows.

Love is Being.

A little strange maybe, to proclaim such simplicity with something so big, right?  Maybe not, if we clarify what Being is.

Being is the absolute existence, complete and perfect, lacking no essential characteristic; Essence.

Love is not an emotion; however, the expression of Love can encompass many different emotions.  Love is simply Being, it’s what you are; you are Love.  Many may argue that if we are Love, then we are complete & perfect (by the definition of Being); I say, yes you are complete & perfect.  Now there is another component of our experience in physical form, having a body and being here on Earth that we confuse to be whom we are; this is the personality, or ego, or self, or external self; any of those terms work.  That is not the same as your Being Love.

Ironically enough, many years ago when I was watching the scene of the lifeline discussion in the movie Donnie Darko, I empathized with the character Donnie Darko a teenage boy (played by Jake Gyllenhaal).  He was distraught by his teacher’s discussion and argued how everything can not be lumped into the two categories of Love & fear.  I remember feeling the concept was absurd and like Donnie Darko, life is not that simple.

As time has passed, experiences realized, and awakenings occur, life has become more conceptually simple yet experientially complex.  The complexity comes from becoming aware of the simplicity that I AM Love, but have yet to clear all my counter intentions, non-working deep seeded beliefs, and find the sub or unconscious counter beliefs.

However, the joy of reuniting with the Essence I Am and recognizing that it’s Love, is the spark that ignites continuous personal growth.  Many people are still suffering from the lack of awareness that they are Love and we are united.  Here are a couple of fun exercises I’ve done that you can do that may open that window, as it did for me.

1. Write a Love Letter: write a love letter to yourself, LOL. I know it may sound silly, but give it a try and see what happens.  Of course, the letter must only include all those wonderful things about you as though you were writing the letter to the love of your life.  You can even ask for forgiveness if it’s helpful……hmmm?
2. The I Am Chant:  close your eyes and start saying, “I Am a __________ woman or man” (fill in the blank with words like: loving, worthy, beautiful, powerful, passionate, caring, creative, etc.).  Keep doing this until you find three or four words that really feel true for you when you say them.  After you have found your words, chant out load, “I Am a _______,______,_______woman/man”, over and over until you feel a definite shift come over you.  This shift is expressed many different ways and is unique for you.  Some have experienced tears of joy, laughter, a beam of light from within, it’s entirely unique to you and your experience.  A simple note to make, do not put an “and” between any of the words you have found for yourself because this tends to diminish the word that the “and” proceeds.

Look for a future post discussing the expressions of Love…….until then……..

I Am a Loving, Powerful, Passionate Woman; Much Love to all of You!