The joy of life is about giving, but has been misinterpreted. It’s about doing the most loving thing for your Being first and foremost. Because, the Being made of love, will naturally share and give to others when we are aware and awake to our Being and the joys we deserve to experience.

It is very exhausting to constantly give to others if we haven’t given to ourselves first, but if we fulfill our own needs, desires, etc. (not the egos/self/personality’s), then it’s not exhausting at all to give to others, it’s actually energizing. If we give to others without giving to ourselves first, we have actually become takers, because it comes with an energy of “I’m tired”, or “I don’t have time, but I’ll do it anyway”, or “If I help these people, I’ll look good”, or “If I don’t give, give, I’m a bad person”, or “If I say no, then I’m being selfish.” This mind chatter obviously goes on forever, since we all have our own versions.

Be compassionate towards your “self”, don’t judge it, watch it with your Being, so that you can learn how to balance and unite with it, anything else only perpetuates the mind chatter cycle.

My explanation for,

“but if we fulfill our own needs, desires, etc. (not the egos/self/personality’s)”

Our own needs, desires, etc. is referring to our Being’s needs, desires, etc. rather than the personality’s, just to be clear if it was not clear. I don’t believe the personality is undesirable, it’s just been distorted, manipulated, conditioned, and most of all entrenched with deep seeded fear.

The fear that “self” experiences is a fight against the fact that we are all a part of the One essence of light/love. Self believes that if we accept existence as One, it will die, and anything fearing death will exude a powerful force of resistance.
Good Luck, and Much Love to You!